I believe you are making the right choice regarding your wedding, because she is a bully, and you have decided to draw the line. She punishes you when she doesn’t get what she wants, so strap in, be strong and continue to deliver proportional consequences. I think you should calmly ignore her restrictions regarding your siblings, and do your best to keep in touch with them through technology, but also being brave enough to knock on the door. DEAR AMY: I appreciated your answer to “Wondering,” who wanted some direction on what gift to give triplet siblings who were graduating from high school. Giving money equal to the graduation year ($20.18) is clever, but given your literacy efforts, I’m surprised you didn’t suggest a book.

Palo Alto Children’s Theatre, “Junie B, Jones — The Musical!” Through Feb, 8, Book and lyrics by Marcy Heisler, music by Zina Goldrich, based on book series by Barbara Park, Palo Alto Children’s Theatre, 1305 Middlefield Road, Palo Alto, $12-$14, 650-463-4970, TheatreWorks, “2 Pianos, 4 Hands.” Through Feb, 15, “A comic coming-of-age journey featuring music from Bach and Beethoven to Joplin and Jerry Lee Lewis, two endearing piano students reach the edge of genius only to fall an octave short of stardom.” Directed by Tom Frey, Mountain View Center colorful / foot stretcher / stretch / foot stretcher / ballet stretcher / arch enhancer / arch stretcher / dance stretcher / sho for the Performing Arts, 500 Castro St., Mountain View, $19-$74 (subject to change; discounts available), theatreworks.org or 650-463-1960..

Silent auction items included a chocolate-tasting offered by Palo Alto’s Alegio, a private coffee-roasting event by Ambrosial Coffee, a Brats and Beer party, ballet tickets, mystery dinner party, Disneyland tickets, and more. A brief live auction capped the evening, with high bids going for a “Star Wars”-themed quilt hand made by Marilyn Well and signed by members of the choir; the ability to select music for Ragazzi’s June concert; and a private performance by Continuo. Among the guests were Ragazzi Founder and Artistic Director Joyce Keil, Marianne Pallotti, parents Rob and Stefanie Wilen, Art and Patty Navarro,  Greta Purcell, Daniel Tumas, and board members C. Chris Griffin, Linda Griffin,  Amy Mendenhall, Peter Sherman, Joe Buxton and Rohini Chakravarthy.

SFJazz Center: The center keeps busy over the holiday period with shows by soul icon Maceo Parker (Dec, 28-31); jazz/soul singer The Dynamic Miss Faye Carol (two shows Dec, 30) and the dancer Savion Glover with percussionist Marcus Gilmore (Jan, 4-7); the center also has a restaurant and bar; www.sfjazz.org, Bryson Tiller: The on-the-rise colorful / foot stretcher / stretch / foot stretcher / ballet stretcher / arch enhancer / arch stretcher / dance stretcher / sho singer/rapper scored a No, 1 album with his sophomore release, “True to Self.” He brings his Set it Off tour to the Fox Theater 8 p.m, Dec, 30; $59.50-$79.50; apeconcerts.com..

“I wear a lot of skinny pants and skinny jeans with blazers. I have always been a jackets and blazers girl,” she said. “If you look in my closet, I have more jackets and blazers than anything else. When you can pull out a great jacket or blazer and make a pair of jeans look dressy, it’s the best way to be formal without being formal. It’s the one piece that you can wear and really transform your outfit just that quick. “And, of course, shoes. We can’t forget the shoes. I love shoes. I used to teeter around in those really tall stilettos. Now I look for comfort — wedges. I’ve got a 9-, 12-hour day today, but I can’t do it in these stilettos.